1. Decide to be happy.
After all, happiness is not a thing, an address, title, or bank balance. Happiness isn't even a stage of life ... whether that be single or married, young or old, working or retired, or even parenting versus empty nesting. As author Tim Connor puts it, "It is not something you can grasp, earn, keep, buy, learn, give away or know. It will come after you relentlessly if you have that inner state of consciousness that says, 'I am happy no matter what is in my life.'"
He's right. Happiness is NOT the consequence of something HAPPENING in your life. It's a decision you make ... no matter what is going on in your life. You decide to be happy.
I'll never forget the time when that lesson was first drummed into my mind. As a kid, I used to love Bob Barker do his show called "Truth Or Consequences." And on occasion he would have unusual guests on his show.
On one show, his team found this old man who lived way back in the boonies of the Great Smokey Mountains. He had never been exposed to electricity, running water, the radio, television, or any other modern convenience. He not only lived without those things, he never even heard of those things. He was indeed living in another time period.
As Barker interviewed him, the audience laughed at his simple, naive answers, but they weren't laughing at him but with him. He was so charming the audience couldn't help but love him.
Finally, Barker said, "You seem so happy. You must have some wonderful secret of happiness. Please tell us what it is."
The old man replied, "No, ain't got no secret of happiness. I jest gets up every morning and figures I got a decision to make ... to be happy or unhappy. And what do you think I do? I decides to be happy."
The audience smiled and giggled. They may even have thought, "That's easy for him to say. He doesn't have all the pressures we have in our lives.
But then I'm reminded of another person that no one would ever accuse of being naive or simple-minded. No one would ever say his life was stress-free, and yet this man said the same thing as the old man on Bob Barker's show. I'm talking about Abraham Lincoln, of course. He said, "People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
So I challenge you with this first point. DECIDE to be happy. And then ...
2. Fuel your passion.
Keep your passion alive ... whatever you do. It's the great equalizer in life. It often makes up for a lack of experience and knowledge.
Of course, I am NOT saying that you can forget about increasing your knowledge or expanding your experience. That's always necessary. But I am saying that your passion will be interpreted by others as a strong belief in yourself, your mission, and your purpose ... while your knowledge and experience is catching up with you.
Of course, you may be saying, "I don't feel an awful lot of passion in my life right now. Life is tough, and I'm just barely hanging on." Hey, we've all been there, but you don't have to stay there. You can pump up your passion.
Try these ideas:
*Count your blessings. We often overlook or dismiss them when times are tough ... but they're still there.
*Affirm yourself. Talk to yourself. Tell yourself such things as, "I am here to stay. I am here to make a difference. I am not giving up." Or as St. Augustine implied, "I am moving forward. I'm going to keep on walking. I am not turning back."
*Let the past pass. Don't waste your time on what you did or should have done. Learn from it and then let it go.
*Practice an attitude of gratitude. The more thanks you give, the more passion you'll get.
*Accept yourself ... warts and all. You know the old adage ... that "God don't make no junk." It's true. You have great value. It's time you accept that fact.
With passion in your life, then you have to ...
3. Learn resiliency.
Sooner or later everyone experiences failure, disappointments, and setbacks in life. So the ability to bounce back from those challenging times has got to be one of the keys to greater happiness and more joy ... on and off the job.
I'll talk about resiliency in a lot more detail in my tele-seminar on August 12th at 2:00 CST. It's called "Tough Times Never Last But Tough People Do." You can read more about it or register for it by going to: http://srv.ezinedirector.net/?n=3940963&s=94955119
In simple terms, resilience is the ability to keep on coming back, time after time. No matter how many times life brings you to your knees, you try again and again. You try something new, or you try something different. In fact, it's one of the most critical survival skills in today's tumultuous world. Learn it. Get resilient.
And finally, for greater success and happiness, you've got to...
4. Learn when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em.
As you move through life, you are faced with a variety of challenges that test your patience, resolve, and commitment. Just remember ... in every one of those challenges, you always have 3 choices ... to live, lobby, or leave.
You could decide to LIVE with it. Sometimes that's the best option. Your work may be uninspiring or your boss may be disrespectful. But with the economy in shambles, you may decide to live with it ... for the time being. After all, there may not be very many other attractive alternatives in the workplace.
Your second choice is to LOBBY for change. You may be having a difficult time with your spouse's behavior, your customer's attitude, or your company's policies. So you could attempt to change your situation or your relationship. You could use all your very best communication skills to bring about positive, productive change in your situation. In fact, that's what the second day of my "Journey to the Extraordinary" program teaches you to do.
You can check it out by going to: http://srv.ezinedirector.net/?n=3940964&s=94955119
If neither of those choices appeal to you, you can choose to LEAVE. It can be a valid option. Sometimes you're in a situation where someone else is destroying your self-esteem, damaging your attitudes, or blocking your success in life and work. Leaving might be a wise and healthy option.
But let me offer one caution. Many people leave too quickly. Faced with a difficult person or challenging situation, they split. Their patience runs thin or their tolerance level runs dry. They leave marriages too quickly, quit jobs too rapidly, and change locations too often ... thinking they'll leave those problems behind ... as they search for greener pastures somewhere else.
It may be possible to find greener pastures. If they're out there, go for 'em. Just make sure you've worked through all of your own problems before you move on to a new relationship or a new job. If you don't, they're sure to show up in your new situation.
In summary, the happiest people are the happiest for a reason ... well, actually four reasons. They have decided to be happy. They have learned how to keep their passion alive and well. They have learned how to be resilient. And they know when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em.
Action:
Do three things this week that will fuel your passion.
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SPEAKERS ADDED TO GOVERNOR'S AG CONFERENCE LINEUP;
NDA STILL ACCEPTING REGISTRATIONS
(LINCOLN) - Greg Ibach, Director of the Nebraska Department of Agriculture (NDA), today announced additional speakers have been added to the lineup for the 22nd Annual Governor's Ag Conference. The conference, scheduled for March 3-4, 2010, will be held at the Holiday Inn Convention Center in Kearney.
“We've added two speakers who will address the issues of animal welfare and biotechnology. These are topics that truly will impact the future for all farmers and ranchers,” said Ibach.
Jack Fisher is the executive vice president of the Ohio Farm Bureau Federation. He was instrumental in Ohio's passage last fall of Issue 2, which implemented the Ohio Livestock Care Standards Board. Mr. Fisher will discuss Ohio agriculture's proactive approach to out-of-state activists' attempts to influence animal agriculture practices via ballot initiative.
Dr. Sally Mackenzie is a professor with the Center for Plant Science Innovation at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln. Dr. Mackenzie's research is in the area of plant molecular genetics, and she will discuss emerging biotechnologies and genomics data that will have a strong impact on agriculture in the future.
Ibach reminded the public that NDA is still accepting registrations to the conference. Those interested in attending can register by calling NDA toll-free at (800) 831-0550. The registration deadline is February 22.
Pre-conference activities will begin at 6:00 p.m. CST on Wednesday, March 3, with the “Celebrate Nebraska Agriculture” reception, featuring foods produced in Nebraska. The conference will convene at 9:00 a.m. CST on Thursday, March 4.
Speakers previously announced by Governor Dave Heineman include Jason Henderson, Vice President at the Omaha Branch of the Federal Reserve Bank of Kansas City; James B. Milliken, President of the University of Nebraska; Stan Garbacz, the Agricultural Trade Representative for the Nebraska Department of Agriculture; Cheryl Stubbendieck, Vice President/Public Relations for the Nebraska Farm Bureau; and Terry Landes II, Marketing and Public Relations Manager for Prairieland Dairy in Firth.
The conference is open to anyone interested in learning more about the issues facing Nebraska agriculture. A $75 registration fee covers participation at both the conference and the Wednesday evening reception. More information, including the schedule, is available at www.agr.ne.gov.
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LINCOLN - Greg Ibach, Director of the Nebraska Department of Agriculture (NDA) today announced the theme for the annual NDA Agriculture Week in Nebraska Poster Contest. In its seventh year, the contest is open to all Nebraska youth in first through sixth grade. This year's theme is: "Nebraska Agriculture: Thank a Farmer."
"Nebraska's number one industry is agriculture. This poster contest allows our students an opportunity to have an open discussion about the importance of the agricultural industry in their classrooms, said Ibach. "Throughout the years, we've learned that this contest has spurred teachers to invite farmers and ranchers into their classrooms, and plan field trips to local farms as a way to help their students learn more about agriculture."
The entry deadline for the contest is March 1, 2010. The winners will be announced during National Ag Week (March 14-20).
The contest is broken down into three separate age groups:
* First and second grade students
* Third and fourth grade students
* Fifth and sixth grade students
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The winning entries will be featured on the NDA web site, as well as in promotional materials and other publications.
"We encourage teachers, parents, 4-H, and FFA members to get involved in helping to educate Nebraska's youth about the importance of the agricultural industry in our state and for those youth to participate in this year's contest," said Director Ibach.
Contest rules, official entry forms, and additional information is available by calling Christin Kamm at (402) 471-6856, by e-mailing
http://www.thegrapevinecommunities.com/horde/imp/message.php?mailbox=INBOX&index=11&start=11&message_token=4faac17078d21 883fdfe67de6db02da0&actionID=delete_message#, or by logging into the "Kids Page" located on the NDA homepage at www.agr.ne.gov.
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Christin Kamm
Nebraska Department of Agriculture
Public Information Officer
P.O. Box 94947
Lincoln, NE 68509
(402) 471-6856 (Office)
(402) 440-7251 (Cell)
(402) 471-6876 (Fax)
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